One more comment: I see a lot of people in the comment section that keep focusing on the 'cheating' aspect of what happened.

Cheating is most often a SYMPTOM of a larger problem - it is not usually the problem.

As the author pointed out, there are times when cheating was the only real issue, but for the most part, cheating is just another symptom.

There's good news here, though, for anyone currently dealing with infidelity: cheating can be a catalyst for change.

That change could be a complete reevaluation of the relationship; it could be a chance to review your own failures and shortcomings in a relationship; it could be the moment where both people FINALLY sit down and communicate with each other.

When infidelity occurs, the best thing you can do (if you want to salvage the relationship still) is to not throw blame around like it's confetti. You need to listen, interact, and speak to your significant other without blame, without the word "you" and without hate.

Take an open and honest look into your relationship, but do it WITH your partner. Admit to that which you also screwed up, listen to their issues with you, and use that to fix both parties.

We don't like admitting that we could have been the 'reason' for another person doing something like 'cheating' but people put far too much weight on cheating and not enough weight into everything else.

Shutting your spouse out, refusing to be intimate, refusing to be affectionate, or not paying attention to them when they talk, or not being there when they need you -- these are things that are just as bad, if not worse, for a relationship as cheating.