Perhaps you're commenting on the wrong article? I say that because I did not see anything in the article claiming that he was domineering.

I did not see anything in the article that suggested SHE tried to get him to go to counseling and he refused.

And I'm reading through this response here and I cannot help but think you've been hurt in the past, by a man, and that you blame him for what happened.

Yes, that's an assumption on my part but based on the fact that you went on about a whole bunch of things that didn't actually exist in the article, though you are crediting TO the author.

The author was quite clear that she DID purposefully push him away. She did not want him around. She did not show him affection.

She even admits to having an affair of her own, albeit an "emotional affair," which, to me, is no different than a physical one.

But as I said before, cheating is a symptom of a problem, much the same as "shutting down" would be (your words).

Cheating is no more wrong or right than any of the aforementioned, terrible things that you brought up. It's just another bad thing that couples can do to each other.

Also, it is not always a man's fault. Women have faults too. Sadly, many women get away with SO MUCH because of the automatic assumption from society that if there are problems, it must be the man's doing.

The female author admits that she pushed much of what was happening, yet you are here still trying to convince her that she was right and he was wrong. Or perhaps, that she was LESS wrong than him.

They both did bad things. They both cheated. They're both wrong, but it is clear that she drove him to cheat. She admits this.

But you want her to think he's wrong.